妈妈育儿网

主页 > 教育 > 心理性格 >

当一个母亲决定抛弃自闭症孩子

发布日期:2024-08-20 03:07:06编辑:网络收集

“我曾经站在河边,想跳下去,但勇气不够;想带着孩子喝农药自杀,又很害怕看到孩子痛苦的表情……”

“我觉得这不是人过的生活,一个人真的很难坚持下去,如果再过一两年还是这样的话,我可能会带着孩子走上那条路……”

90后母亲把5岁自闭症儿子遗弃在火车站;

父亲亲手结束了5岁自闭症儿子的生命 ;

爷爷将6岁自闭症孙子遗弃......

这些是自闭症父母的无奈心声,也是发生在我们身边的真实悲剧,我们不禁发问,那些抛弃自闭症孩子的人,真的解脱了吗?

那些压得喘不过气来的苦难

治病,教育,很多困难让“孤独”孩子的家长们无法承受。

一位家长说,自从发现孩子的“孤独”后,每一个家庭都曾绝望,感觉到家庭已经不再温暖,那种感受你没办法去体会。

有了“孤独”孩子,夫妻争吵多了,矛盾莫名地来了,你想挡都挡不住,有的时候,真想放弃孩子。

曾经有一对“孤独”孩子的父母,在发现孩子有病后,俩人还不断地求医,后来由于过程太长大家都倦了,真的倦了,丈夫开始不回家,夫妻之间开始产生矛盾。

儿子病了、丈夫倦了、工作没了等种种压力让这位妻子变成了精神病患者,家最后破碎。

一位家长告诉记者,有“孤独”孩子,现实就是家里就得有一个人放弃工作全天照顾孩子,而这个家所有的经济压力都得另一个人来承担。

这种状况带来的后果就是,工作者无法承受、照顾者无法平衡,双方在这种时候就会有厌倦情绪产生。这种情绪会让一个稍稍脆弱的家庭紧张,稍不注意就会失去团结、温馨。

多次试图抛弃儿子

因为儿子是自闭症,妈妈忍受不了痛苦的煎熬,多次试图抛弃儿子。旁观者一定认为这个妈妈太不称职,孩子是自己十月怀胎来的,是自己身上掉下的肉啊,怎么能这么狠心。

孩子还这么小,正是需要妈妈的时候,没有妈妈,孩子的世界就塌了。有句话说,想毁掉一个自闭症孩子不难,抛弃他两次就够了,第一次让他失去妈妈,第二次让他失去全世界。太残酷了!

外人轻描淡写地评价着,却不知道星娃父母是多么无奈又痛苦,备受煎熬。

乐乐也是自闭症,爸爸坦言也曾经有过抛弃孩子的想法,只有经历过才懂星娃父母有多难!

另一半的逃离

奇奇3岁确诊自闭症,爸爸就跑路了,很快再婚。

很多人都觉得做爸爸的没有担当,遇到问题就想着逃离,把困难留给妈妈,让她一个人去承受。还是妈妈更靠谱。

但是,现实中,逃离的那个人也可能是妈妈,不同的家庭,不同的境遇。

乐乐2岁确诊,妈妈就走了,是爸爸一个人把孩子带大,已经11岁了,父女俩生活得很好。

孩子有爸爸或者有妈妈带,总归比抛弃或者扔给老人带要好得多。

曾看到一个案例,有个50岁的奶奶独自带3岁孙子求医,儿媳妇走了,儿子常年在外打工很少回家。在本该含饴弄孙的年龄,却要既当爹又当妈,还要付出常人难以想象的辛苦。

曾经遇到过屡次把自闭症的儿子带到乡下想要丢掉的亲爹,孩子母亲一次次哭着去找,最后实在没办法把自己电话和姓名纹在了孩子手上。

也遇见过自闭症伴随暴力倾向的孩子,十三四岁发起疯来,两个保安都拉不住,瘦小的母亲被他打的满脸青紫。

比能力更重要的是希望

只此一路,别无他途

我家孩子两岁七个月了,早期还没有觉得她跟别的小朋友不一样,开始上幼儿园后,老师各种反馈,说上课走神,自己跟自己说话,不跟别的小朋友一起玩,喜欢一直玩一个玩具,才开始往自闭症这上面去想,带孩子去医院检查,最后确诊了,天都塌了。

她才三岁啊,她以后的人生该怎么办?我和她爸爸的生活又该怎么继续?

从确诊之后我几乎是天天以泪洗面,天天责备自己责备我先生,如果对孩子的关心多一点,多与她沟通交流,多给她一点爱,她是不是就不会像现在这样?她是不是就跟正常小朋友一样了?

后来经过朋友的开解,才带她去了康复机构干预,才发现我一直以来担心去了康复机构,就等于承认我的孩子有病,一直抱着这种抗拒的心态,是在害我的孩子!

孩子现在已经干预半年了,能跟我对视,对我的呼唤有反应,也能帮我做些简单的家务了。

真的很庆幸,及时发现了,也及时做出了正确的干预方法,拯救了我这个家庭。

我们是一家人,孩子你知道吗?

“爸爸、妈妈都爱你,我们知道你也爱我们。”这是一位母亲对自己患有“孤独症”儿子常说的一句话。无论何时何地,她都要让自己的爱如雨露一样,抚爱儿子的心灵,希望能让他从“孤独”走出来。

哪怕是在黑夜中看到一点星光,他们也不会走向绝望。

济南一位妈妈可以为了让孩子融入社会,每天凌晨四点披着星光出门做送奶工;家里两个孩子都是孤独症的单亲家庭,微薄的收入不仅要支撑整个家庭的生活开支,还要兼顾两个孩子的康复费用……

像这样的孤独症家庭真的太多太多了,大家各有各的辛酸和艰难。

他们对于未来也有无法安放的忧虑,但是仍然挣扎着在困顿的生活中寻找出口。

除了随时可能崩塌的信念,更重要的是他们或许能看到希望,看到孩子从不会说话到开口叫妈妈、看到孩子从什么也不会到可以自己吃饭穿衣……

我们都会为孩子的未来迷茫,但是越来越多的事实也在证明,孤独症孩子的未来不能完全被定义。

国家为孤独症孩子的融合教育在逐渐完善相关教育政策,残联也在普及给孤独症群体的福利补贴,孤独症康复的知识不断地在普及,医学研究也在持续地开展……

这些都是孤独症孩子能够按照正常轨迹成长的可能,也让我们的孩子未来可期。

关于遗弃

该理解还是谴责?

我们相信,任何一个有良知的家长,若不是走投无路,都绝不可能随意抛弃自己的孩子。

有人说遗弃孩子有悖常理,也是违法行径。或许可以获得一时解脱,但是换来的是终身的不安和内疚。

也有人说遗弃孩子,法虽不容但其情可解。特殊家庭的心酸不是普通人可以理解的,若不是经济能力弱、政策无支持、社会不包容……也不会出此下策。

作为特殊教育的从业者,我们也希望能尽我所能,为广大孤独症群体持续发声,得到社会各界更真实的支持,让他们的未来更有保障,让那些有机会干预的人,有更多的可能。

自闭症的孩子也是孩子,他们是无辜的,不是生下来因为自己的天生不一样就要被社会淘汰——就算被社会抛弃,自己的父母也绝不能抛弃。

虽然终身无法治愈,但是确实是可以通过科学的训练和密集的干预让他们一点点进步。

看看那些背井离乡带着孩子四处干预的家庭吧;

看看那些为了孩子放弃高薪工作和事业,甘愿作为一个辛苦全职带娃的爸爸妈妈吧;

看看那些受尽外人冷眼和无端指责谩骂仍然默默忍受,只想保护自己孩子周全,卑微到尘埃里的伟大守望天使们吧……

看了你可能就知道,人生其实还有一种活法,这种生活方式让你疲惫,让你绝望,让你痛恨,但是却不会让你不安。

猜你喜欢

编辑推荐

热门阅读

Weibo Article 1 Weibo Article 2 Weibo Article 3 Weibo Article 4 Weibo Article 5 Weibo Article 6 Weibo Article 7 Weibo Article 8 Weibo Article 9 Weibo Article 10 Weibo Article 11 Weibo Article 12 Weibo Article 13 Weibo Article 14 Weibo Article 15 Weibo Article 16 Weibo Article 17 Weibo Article 18 Weibo Article 19 Weibo Article 20 Weibo Article 21 Weibo Article 22 Weibo Article 23 Weibo Article 24 Weibo Article 25 Weibo Article 26 Weibo Article 27 Weibo Article 28 Weibo Article 29 Weibo Article 30 Weibo Article 31 Weibo Article 32 Weibo Article 33 Weibo Article 34 Weibo Article 35 Weibo Article 36 Weibo Article 37 Weibo Article 38 Weibo Article 39 Weibo Article 40 Weibo Article 41 Weibo Article 42 Weibo Article 43 Weibo Article 44 Weibo Article 45 Weibo Article 46 Weibo Article 47 Weibo Article 48 Weibo Article 49 Weibo Article 50 Weibo Article 51 Weibo Article 52 Weibo Article 53 Weibo Article 54 Weibo Article 55 Weibo Article 56 Weibo Article 57 Weibo Article 58 Weibo Article 59 Weibo Article 60 Weibo Article 61 Weibo Article 62 Weibo Article 63 Weibo Article 64 Weibo Article 65 Weibo Article 66 Weibo Article 67 Weibo Article 68 Weibo Article 69 Weibo Article 70 Weibo Article 71 Weibo Article 72 Weibo Article 73 Weibo Article 74 Weibo Article 75 Weibo Article 76 Weibo Article 77 Weibo Article 78 Weibo Article 79 Weibo Article 80 Weibo Article 81 Weibo Article 82 Weibo Article 83 Weibo Article 84 Weibo Article 85 Weibo Article 86 Weibo Article 87 Weibo Article 88 Weibo Article 89 Weibo Article 90 Weibo Article 91 Weibo Article 92 Weibo Article 93 Weibo Article 94 Weibo Article 95 Weibo Article 96 Weibo Article 97 Weibo Article 98 Weibo Article 99 Weibo Article 100 Weibo Article 101 Weibo Article 102 Weibo Article 103 Weibo Article 104 Weibo Article 105 Weibo Article 106 Weibo Article 107 Weibo Article 108 Weibo Article 109 Weibo Article 110 Weibo Article 111 Weibo Article 112 Weibo Article 113 Weibo Article 114 Weibo Article 115 Weibo Article 116 Weibo Article 117 Weibo Article 118 Weibo Article 119 Weibo Article 120 Weibo Article 121 Weibo Article 122 Weibo Article 123 Weibo Article 124 Weibo Article 125 Weibo Article 126 Weibo Article 127 Weibo Article 128 Weibo Article 129 Weibo Article 130 Weibo Article 131 Weibo Article 132 Weibo Article 133 Weibo Article 134 Weibo Article 135 Weibo Article 136 Weibo Article 137 Weibo Article 138 Weibo Article 139 Weibo Article 140 Weibo Article 141 Weibo Article 142 Weibo Article 143 Weibo Article 144 Weibo Article 145 Weibo Article 146 Weibo Article 147 Weibo Article 148 Weibo Article 149 Weibo Article 150 Weibo Article 151 Weibo Article 152 Weibo Article 153 Weibo Article 154 Weibo Article 155 Weibo Article 156 Weibo Article 157 Weibo Article 158 Weibo Article 159 Weibo Article 160 Weibo Article 161 Weibo Article 162 Weibo Article 163 Weibo Article 164 Weibo Article 165 Weibo Article 166 Weibo Article 167 Weibo Article 168 Weibo Article 169 Weibo Article 170 Weibo Article 171 Weibo Article 172 Weibo Article 173 Weibo Article 174 Weibo Article 175 Weibo Article 176 Weibo Article 177 Weibo Article 178 Weibo Article 179 Weibo Article 180 Weibo Article 181 Weibo Article 182 Weibo Article 183 Weibo Article 184 Weibo Article 185 Weibo Article 186 Weibo Article 187 Weibo Article 188 Weibo Article 189 Weibo Article 190 Weibo Article 191 Weibo Article 192 Weibo Article 193 Weibo Article 194 Weibo Article 195 Weibo Article 196 Weibo Article 197 Weibo Article 198 Weibo Article 199 Weibo Article 200 Weibo Article 201 Weibo Article 202 Weibo Article 203 Weibo Article 204 Weibo Article 205 Weibo Article 206 Weibo Article 207 Weibo Article 208 Weibo Article 209 Weibo Article 210 Weibo Article 211 Weibo Article 212 Weibo Article 213 Weibo Article 214 Weibo Article 215 Weibo Article 216 Weibo Article 217 Weibo Article 218 Weibo Article 219 Weibo Article 220 Weibo Article 221 Weibo Article 222 Weibo Article 223 Weibo Article 224 Weibo Article 225 Weibo Article 226 Weibo Article 227 Weibo Article 228 Weibo Article 229 Weibo Article 230 Weibo Article 231 Weibo Article 232 Weibo Article 233 Weibo Article 234 Weibo Article 235 Weibo Article 236 Weibo Article 237 Weibo Article 238 Weibo Article 239 Weibo Article 240 Weibo Article 241 Weibo Article 242 Weibo Article 243 Weibo Article 244 Weibo Article 245 Weibo Article 246 Weibo Article 247 Weibo Article 248 Weibo Article 249 Weibo Article 250 Weibo Article 251 Weibo Article 252 Weibo Article 253 Weibo Article 254 Weibo Article 255 Weibo Article 256 Weibo Article 257 Weibo Article 258 Weibo Article 259 Weibo Article 260 Weibo Article 261 Weibo Article 262 Weibo Article 263 Weibo Article 264 Weibo Article 265 Weibo Article 266 Weibo Article 267 Weibo Article 268 Weibo Article 269 Weibo Article 270 Weibo Article 271 Weibo Article 272 Weibo Article 273 Weibo Article 274 Weibo Article 275 Weibo Article 276 Weibo Article 277 Weibo Article 278 Weibo Article 279 Weibo Article 280 Weibo Article 281 Weibo Article 282 Weibo Article 283 Weibo Article 284 Weibo Article 285 Weibo Article 286 Weibo Article 287 Weibo Article 288 Weibo Article 289 Weibo Article 290 Weibo Article 291 Weibo Article 292 Weibo Article 293 Weibo Article 294 Weibo Article 295 Weibo Article 296 Weibo Article 297 Weibo Article 298 Weibo Article 299 Weibo Article 300 Weibo Article 301 Weibo Article 302 Weibo Article 303 Weibo Article 304 Weibo Article 305 Weibo Article 306 Weibo Article 307 Weibo Article 308 Weibo Article 309 Weibo Article 310 Weibo Article 311 Weibo Article 312 Weibo Article 313 Weibo Article 314 Weibo Article 315 Weibo Article 316 Weibo Article 317 Weibo Article 318 Weibo Article 319 Weibo Article 320 Weibo Article 321 Weibo Article 322 Weibo Article 323 Weibo Article 324 Weibo Article 325 Weibo Article 326 Weibo Article 327 Weibo Article 328 Weibo Article 329 Weibo Article 330 Weibo Article 331 Weibo Article 332 Weibo Article 333 Weibo Article 334 Weibo Article 335 Weibo Article 336 Weibo Article 337 Weibo Article 338 Weibo Article 339 Weibo Article 340 Weibo Article 341 Weibo Article 342 Weibo Article 343 Weibo Article 344 Weibo Article 345 Weibo Article 346 Weibo Article 347 Weibo Article 348 Weibo Article 349 Weibo Article 350 Weibo Article 351 Weibo Article 352 Weibo Article 353 Weibo Article 354 Weibo Article 355 Weibo Article 356 Weibo Article 357 Weibo Article 358 Weibo Article 359 Weibo Article 360 Weibo Article 361 Weibo Article 362 Weibo Article 363 Weibo Article 364 Weibo Article 365 Weibo Article 366 Weibo Article 367 Weibo Article 368 Weibo Article 369 Weibo Article 370 Weibo Article 371 Weibo Article 372 Weibo Article 373 Weibo Article 374 Weibo Article 375 Weibo Article 376 Weibo Article 377 Weibo Article 378 Weibo Article 379 Weibo Article 380 Weibo Article 381 Weibo Article 382 Weibo Article 383 Weibo Article 384 Weibo Article 385 Weibo Article 386 Weibo Article 387 Weibo Article 388 Weibo Article 389 Weibo Article 390 Weibo Article 391 Weibo Article 392 Weibo Article 393 Weibo Article 394 Weibo Article 395 Weibo Article 396 Weibo Article 397 Weibo Article 398 Weibo Article 399 Weibo Article 400 Weibo Article 401 Weibo Article 402 Weibo Article 403 Weibo Article 404 Weibo Article 405 Weibo Article 406 Weibo Article 407 Weibo Article 408 Weibo Article 409 Weibo Article 410 Weibo Article 411 Weibo Article 412 Weibo Article 413 Weibo Article 414 Weibo Article 415 Weibo Article 416 Weibo Article 417 Weibo Article 418 Weibo Article 419 Weibo Article 420 Weibo Article 421 Weibo Article 422 Weibo Article 423 Weibo Article 424 Weibo Article 425 Weibo Article 426 Weibo Article 427 Weibo Article 428 Weibo Article 429 Weibo Article 430 Weibo Article 431 Weibo Article 432 Weibo Article 433 Weibo Article 434 Weibo Article 435 Weibo Article 436 Weibo Article 437 Weibo Article 438 Weibo Article 439 Weibo Article 440 Weibo Article 441 Weibo Article 442 Weibo Article 443 Weibo Article 444 Weibo Article 445 Weibo Article 446 Weibo Article 447 Weibo Article 448 Weibo Article 449 Weibo Article 450 Weibo Article 451 Weibo Article 452 Weibo Article 453 Weibo Article 454 Weibo Article 455 Weibo Article 456 Weibo Article 457 Weibo Article 458 Weibo Article 459 Weibo Article 460 Weibo Article 461 Weibo Article 462 Weibo Article 463 Weibo Article 464 Weibo Article 465 Weibo Article 466 Weibo Article 467 Weibo Article 468 Weibo Article 469 Weibo Article 470 Weibo Article 471 Weibo Article 472 Weibo Article 473 Weibo Article 474 Weibo Article 475 Weibo Article 476 Weibo Article 477 Weibo Article 478 Weibo Article 479 Weibo Article 480 Weibo Article 481 Weibo Article 482 Weibo Article 483 Weibo Article 484 Weibo Article 485 Weibo Article 486 Weibo Article 487 Weibo Article 488 Weibo Article 489 Weibo Article 490 Weibo Article 491 Weibo Article 492 Weibo Article 493 Weibo Article 494 Weibo Article 495 Weibo Article 496 Weibo Article 497 Weibo Article 498 Weibo Article 499 Weibo Article 500 Weibo Article 501 Weibo Article 502 Weibo Article 503 Weibo Article 504 Weibo Article 505 Weibo Article 506 Weibo Article 507 Weibo Article 508 Weibo Article 509 Weibo Article 510 Weibo Article 511 Weibo Article 512 Weibo Article 513 Weibo Article 514 Weibo Article 515 Weibo Article 516 Weibo Article 517 Weibo Article 518 Weibo Article 519 Weibo Article 520 Weibo Article 521 Weibo Article 522 Weibo Article 523 Weibo Article 524 Weibo Article 525 Weibo Article 526 Weibo Article 527 Weibo Article 528 Weibo Article 529 Weibo Article 530 Weibo Article 531 Weibo Article 532 Weibo Article 533 Weibo Article 534 Weibo Article 535 Weibo Article 536 Weibo Article 537 Weibo Article 538 Weibo Article 539 Weibo Article 540 Weibo Article 541 Weibo Article 542 Weibo Article 543 Weibo Article 544 Weibo Article 545 Weibo Article 546 Weibo Article 547 Weibo Article 548 Weibo Article 549 Weibo Article 550 Weibo Article 551 Weibo Article 552 Weibo Article 553 Weibo Article 554 Weibo Article 555 Weibo Article 556 Weibo Article 557 Weibo Article 558 Weibo Article 559 Weibo Article 560 Weibo Article 561 Weibo Article 562 Weibo Article 563 Weibo Article 564 Weibo Article 565 Weibo Article 566 Weibo Article 567 Weibo Article 568 Weibo Article 569 Weibo Article 570 Weibo Article 571 Weibo Article 572 Weibo Article 573 Weibo Article 574 Weibo Article 575 Weibo Article 576 Weibo Article 577 Weibo Article 578 Weibo Article 579 Weibo Article 580 Weibo Article 581 Weibo Article 582 Weibo Article 583 Weibo Article 584 Weibo Article 585 Weibo Article 586 Weibo Article 587 Weibo Article 588 Weibo Article 589 Weibo Article 590 Weibo Article 591 Weibo Article 592 Weibo Article 593 Weibo Article 594 Weibo Article 595 Weibo Article 596 Weibo Article 597 Weibo Article 598 Weibo Article 599 Weibo Article 600 Weibo Article 601 Weibo Article 602 Weibo Article 603 Weibo Article 604 Weibo Article 605 Weibo Article 606 Weibo Article 607 Weibo Article 608 Weibo Article 609 Weibo Article 610 Weibo Article 611 Weibo Article 612 Weibo Article 613 Weibo Article 614 Weibo Article 615 Weibo Article 616 Weibo Article 617 Weibo Article 618 Weibo Article 619 Weibo Article 620 Weibo Article 621 Weibo Article 622 Weibo Article 623 Weibo Article 624 Weibo Article 625 Weibo Article 626 Weibo Article 627 Weibo Article 628 Weibo Article 629 Weibo Article 630 Weibo Article 631 Weibo Article 632 Weibo Article 633 Weibo Article 634 Weibo Article 635 Weibo Article 636 Weibo Article 637 Weibo Article 638 Weibo Article 639 Weibo Article 640 Weibo Article 641 Weibo Article 642 Weibo Article 643 Weibo Article 644 Weibo Article 645 Weibo Article 646 Weibo Article 647 Weibo Article 648 Weibo Article 649 Weibo Article 650 Weibo Article 651 Weibo Article 652 Weibo Article 653 Weibo Article 654 Weibo Article 655 Weibo Article 656 Weibo Article 657 Weibo Article 658 Weibo Article 659 Weibo Article 660 Weibo Article 661 Weibo Article 662 Weibo Article 663 Weibo Article 664 Weibo Article 665 Weibo Article 666 Weibo Article 667 Weibo Article 668 Weibo Article 669 Weibo Article 670 Weibo Article 671 Weibo Article 672 Weibo Article 673 Weibo Article 674 Weibo Article 675 Weibo Article 676 Weibo Article 677 Weibo Article 678 Weibo Article 679 Weibo Article 680 Weibo Article 681 Weibo Article 682 Weibo Article 683 Weibo Article 684 Weibo Article 685 Weibo Article 686 Weibo Article 687 Weibo Article 688 Weibo Article 689 Weibo Article 690 Weibo Article 691 Weibo Article 692 Weibo Article 693 Weibo Article 694 Weibo Article 695 Weibo Article 696 Weibo Article 697 Weibo Article 698 Weibo Article 699 Weibo Article 700 Weibo Article 701 Weibo Article 702 Weibo Article 703 Weibo Article 704 Weibo Article 705 Weibo Article 706 Weibo Article 707 Weibo Article 708 Weibo Article 709 Weibo Article 710 Weibo Article 711 Weibo Article 712 Weibo Article 713 Weibo Article 714 Weibo Article 715 Weibo Article 716 Weibo Article 717 Weibo Article 718 Weibo Article 719 Weibo Article 720 Weibo Article 721 Weibo Article 722 Weibo Article 723 Weibo Article 724 Weibo Article 725 Weibo Article 726