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纵子如杀子,溺爱不是爱!

发布日期:2024-09-01 00:22:39编辑:胖虎爱撩妹

溺爱这个词语几年走进了我们的视线,每每在新闻和媒体文章中说到这个词,就会看到很多因为溺爱这个词语引发的很多家庭悲剧。
 
而这些家庭悲剧发生的背后,我们看到了很多父母教育孩子中存在的误区,而正是这些看似为孩子好的和爱孩子的事件,却在悄悄地毁掉孩子。
 
 
01 毁掉孩子的是父母的百依百顺
 
在去年10月份,武汉地铁2号线一对母女的视频在网上了各大热搜。视频里一个大约十几岁的女孩,手插在衣兜了态度嚣张,用左右脚踢着走在前面推着行李箱的中年妇女,而且还多次踢到了这位妇女的身上。
 
这位被脚踢的妇女不是别人,正是这位女孩的妈妈。被踢的原因就是这位妈妈带着女儿在地铁坐错站了,面对自己女儿的无礼和暴躁,她没有出声教导,而是选择了一声不响地任女儿拳打脚踢。很多路人看不下去了,纷纷过来劝说女儿不应这样,同样也是遭到了辱骂和踢打。
 
对孩子的爱,什么才是最好的,在我看来这位母亲对女儿的百依百顺,不对其女儿批评教育,才会导致女子目中无人。这绝对不是爱,真正的应该是正确的引导孩子学会辨别对错,学会去真正地爱这个世界的美好,学会真正地爱自己的身边的所有人,而不是像现在这样,养了一个不懂爱父母的白眼狼。
 
作为父母,我们的身上有义务给予孩子更多的爱,同样有责任在教育的路上,给予他们最好的言传身教,而毁掉孩子的就是父母对的其百依百顺。
 
 
 
02毁掉孩子的是父母的袒护纵容
 
说起李双江的儿子李天一,大家都应该有印象。一个曾经小时候就被父母培养成智体美全面发展少年,却因为后来李双江夫妇疏于管教,对于他过于溺爱,做错事没有及时教育,导致李天一没有是非观,以及后面的变本加厉的行为,才令李天一犯罪埋下了祸根。
 
李天一从小被父母的溺爱养成了交横跋扈的性格。在他读三年级的时候就欺负同学,在学校已经是横行霸道,仗着自己的父亲是李双江有名气和背景,事件小到推二年级同学下楼,大到把同一小区的车主打到住院,使李双江在同事的陪同下到医院替李天一向被打夫妇赔罪道歉。
 
而最后一次出事是在2013年2月轰动全国的轮奸案的发生,李双江夫妇才意识到了这孩子所犯下的错,已经不能通过自己的背景就把此事件轻易压下,而是严重到要受到法律的制裁。年仅17岁的李天一因为与其他几名男子犯了一起性侵了一名女孩被捕,被判处有期徒刑十年。
 
古话说三岁定八十。孩子的从小开始,父母就要严格管教。令其明白是非对错,明事理,而不是任其做错事也不舍管教,一味的袒护纵容。如果你在孩子小时候不舍得管教,长大了就自有人替你管教。只是到了别人替你管教的时候,做父母的就后悔莫及了。
 
 
 
03毁掉孩子的是父母的凡事包办
 
父母爱孩子爱到什么事都包揽到身上,不管到了什么年纪,总把孩子当成是那个找不大的孩子。就如我的大姑,她的儿子大学在大学城就读,在老家的她忐忑不安地来广州找到我妈,带她去表弟大学附近租房子。其原因就是因为表弟从小到大,除了读书以外,其他的家务和简单的自立问题都不会。
 
如在老家的时候,是我大姑煮好三餐,洗碗收桌,甚至连洗衣服、内裤、袜子的小事,我姑都抢着做。原因也很简单,大姑就是要让表弟专心读好书,不希望他把时间浪费在做这些事情上。
 
大姑想在表弟学校租个房子住上一年半载,原因就是担心学校没有洗衣机,担心表弟的衣物他自己不会洗,担心表弟在学校饭堂的饭菜,吃不习惯。她在学校附近住着就可以照顾表弟日常起居。像这样的情景,在新闻上也是经常有看到的,很多父母跟着孩子去到学校陪读的事件,比比皆是。
 
父母这样凡事包办,不利于培养孩子独立自主的意识。大学生本在步入社会前是最好的锻炼时期,如果家长连这样的大小事务都不给孩子去锻炼,如此的养出来的“巨婴”,对于家庭和社会都不是一件好事。
 
正如纪录片中富家三兄弟之一的安德鲁所说:“人无法确定能留给下一代什么财富,但是至少可以确定,一旦给了他们好的教育,他们终生都可以受用。”
 
爱孩子是给他成长的空间,让他在日常的事件中学会独立自理。而不是事事亲力亲为,扼杀孩子在成长路上的每一次学习和锻炼的机会,反而令其事事养成了依赖他人,这正是父母的溺爱一步步在毁掉你的孩子。
 
最后
 
心理专家李玫瑾曾说:“孩子的问题,往往是成年人造就的。孩子的每一种心理或行为问题,都和父母的行为有关,和父母的教育方式有关。”
 
爱孩子是每一位父母的天性,但爱也要有尺度。如果父母过分的对孩子百依百顺,袒护纵容,凡事给孩子包办的话,这样就是在毁掉你的孩子。请记住:溺爱如害子,爱孩子就给他正确的爱!

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