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寒假“全民富二代”出游,是普通家庭最危险的教育,正在毁掉孩子

发布日期:2024-08-22 03:26:10编辑:网络收集

近期,全国各地中小学已陆陆续续进入寒假模式。身边很多有孩子的亲朋好友,也开始躁动了起来,貌似大家都想利用这个机会,好好带孩子出去玩一玩。

在这浓烈的亲子游氛围的感染下,我也忍不住心动了起来,于是也想趁此机会,跟闺蜜一起,带孩子去哈尔滨玩他个七八天。

既然出去玩,就要提前做攻略,于是我便开始做预算和攻略。真是不做不知道,越做越打鼓!

上网查了下,我们一家三口,从济南到哈尔滨,光来回机票就9000多元,三个人去东北的装备还得各买一套,最少也得2000多,再加上6天住宿、饮食,各类门票,短途路费等,这一趟下来至少要准备小两万才够。

看着价格高昂的预算,旅游攻略我已经没心情继续做下去了。毕竟我和老公一个月才赚不到两万,还完房贷,抛去吃喝必要花费一个月也就剩三四千。去这一趟也就意味着我们要花掉大半年的积蓄。

我将预算发给闺蜜,本以为月收入还不如我们的闺蜜,也会和我一样打起退堂鼓,或者换个预算稍微少点的地方,带娃去玩玩。

没想到平时买个衣服都要货比三家的她,丝毫没有被这2万的预算吓到,坚持要带孩子去。问及她为何如此坚决?

闺蜜给出的理由是,女儿班里过半的同学今年寒假都打算去哈尔滨旅游,她不想让孩子寒假开学后,因为这个问题被同学嘲笑,排挤。

一个简单的旅行,不去怎么还会让同学排挤?闺蜜是不是过于焦虑了?

看到焦虑的闺蜜,我忽然想起了近几日刷朋友圈,看到好多家境并不是很优渥的朋友,打着出门长见识的名义,带着孩子各地旅游打卡。

可光鲜的朋友圈照片后,聚在一起聊天,她们又无一不在吐槽,旅行的辛苦,超预算的花费,甚至孩子见长的脾气!

记得之前看到过一个视频,视频中的妈妈说,感觉每次给孩子交辅导班或者兴趣班的费用时,自己就像一个有钱人,几千上万的费用,说交就交,从不讨价还价,也从不心疼。

是啊,仔细观察,我们就会发现,生活中像我朋友和闺蜜这样的家长并不少见,他们不管家境如何,在养育孩子上,都习惯了踮起脚尖,捏紧钱包,按照”富二代“的标准去养育孩子。

他们坚信,只要在孩子身上付出足够的物质和努力,孩子就会感恩父母,努力拼搏,成为有出息的人。

然而,现实却并非如此!

普通家庭最危险的教育,恰恰是踮起脚养孩子。因为一个不小心,就可能把孩子养废!

一、导致孩子不懂感恩,只顾享受

一个不懂感恩的孩子,早已把父母的付出当成理所应当,只顾自己的利益,忽视父母的艰辛。

由孙俪主演的电视剧《安家》中有一个故事,故事的主人公严叔夫妇,平日里省吃俭用,卖了几十年的包子,终于在儿子结婚前夕,全款为儿子在上海买了婚房。

夫妻俩以为买房的钱是自己出的,卧室就有自己的一间,于是拉着铺盖打算跟儿子一起搬进新家,可令他们没想到的是,儿子儿媳却将他们拒之门外。

其实,不仅影视剧中,现实生活中,类似老严夫妇这样,倾尽所有、付出全部,却换不来孩子感恩的例子也很多。

比如我们楼上的小夫妻,两个人一年工资加起来也不超过10万,但今年暑假还是咬牙拿出两万多,带孩子去上海迪士尼玩了几天。

通过他们的朋友圈,可以看出,在旅行过程中,他们一家人住高档酒店,吃千元大餐,不认识他们的人,看朋友圈肯定以为他们家里很有钱。

本以为花了那么多钱,邻居家的娃一定长了不少见识,就算没长见识也会有一段开心的回忆。

结果没想到谈及这次旅行,他竟然没有对父母的一丝丝感激,而全都是嫌弃,嫌弃爸妈这不给买、那不让玩,坐的飞机不是头等舱、住的酒店不如同学住的高大上……

对家境一般的普通家庭来说,父母正确的做法,应是与孩子坦诚地沟通,告诉他们家庭的经济状况,以及为什么有些物质上的需求无法得到满足。

二、导致孩子养成不良的消费习惯

具备不良消费习惯的孩子,未来很难过上幸福的生活,甚至还会在经济上陷入困境,承受债务的压力。

这一点我是颇有感受的,因为我姨妈家的弟弟就是一个典型的,穷人家庭富养出来的孩子。

姨弟是家里的独生子,从小就是想要什么,姨妈都尽量满足。记得我们小时候,衣服鞋子都很少有穿牌子的,但姨弟看到别人穿羡慕,姨妈就省吃俭用也给他买。

等他稍微大大,上高中住校了,姨妈还是超出自己经济能力范围外,尽量给他富裕出很多的生活费,满足他的物质需求,就怕他在外独自生活被钱难为住。

就是这样,姨弟一步一步养成了频繁购物的不良习惯,但凡自己想要的,喜欢的,就必须得买,没有钱的时候,借钱也得买。

现在大学毕业已经三年多了,一分钱没攒下不说,还欠了三十多万的信用卡和各种乱七八糟的贷款,最后这些债务还得由姨妈姨夫来偿还。

父母对孩子物质的过度满足,不仅会导致孩子对家庭经济状况的不理解,还可能让他们产生不切实际的期望和虚荣心,以及不健康的竞争心理。

三、产生负面的价值观和生活态度

父母是孩子第一任老师,父母的言行举止、价值观会潜移默化影响孩子一生。

如果父母,经常性的超出自己能力范围,给孩子提供不切实际的物质享受,时间久了,孩子可能会形成不健康的价值观。

过度追求名牌、高档的消费品的孩子,在我们的生活中并不少见,仔细观察,你就会发现,这些穿名牌,用高档化妆品的孩子,并非大富大贵之家,其中很多都是来自普通家庭。

他们中的很多人可能会认为金钱和物质财富是生活中最重要的东西,而忽略了其他更重要的价值,如人际关系、个人成长和心理健康等。

这种价值观的扭曲可能会影响孩子未来的发展,使他们难以适应社会和实现自己的潜力。

所以,作为家长应该教育孩子树立正确的价值观,让他们理解金钱和物质财富虽然重要,但个人成长、学习、人际关系等更重要的方面。

应该引导孩子关注自己的内在需求,培养他们的兴趣爱好、独立思考能力和创造力,让他们成为有追求、有理想的人。

同时,也应该教育孩子理解金钱和物质财富并不是衡量成功和幸福的标准,而是要通过自己的努力和奋斗来实现自己的人生目标。

【最后写给父母的话】

南京师范大学郦波教授曾说:这是一个全民富二代的时代,我们指责富二代的行为失当,但其实我们都是富二代的践行者。

作为普通家庭的父母,我们不可能像真正的富一代一样,给孩子一生富足的物质保证。

寒假是孩子快乐的时光,父母陪孩子出去旅游放松无可厚非,但如果是超出自己经济能力范围外,做父母的就要好好考虑下,是否更要根据家庭实际情况,理性地规划出游计划,避免盲目追求“富二代”式的消费标准。

因为,普通家庭踮起脚尖富养孩子,不仅坚持不了多久,还可能阻碍孩子的独立性和自主性发展。导致孩子过度依赖父母,缺乏独立思考和行动的能力。

严重的话,还会给他们未来长大成人离开家庭、独立生活时的生活,带来更多的困难和挑战。

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