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中考后回头看才发现,那些考不上高中的孩子,基本上都有这些特点

发布日期:2024-08-21 02:59:21编辑:网络收集

自从“中考分流”政策执行以来,普通初中学生升入高中的概率,就一直维持在50%左右的水平。

这就意味着那些在初中表现不佳,成绩在中下游的学生,直接丧失了接受高中教育和高等教育的机会。

为人父母,尤其是接受过高等教育的家长,难免心生焦虑,不惜花钱给孩子报各种补习班、辅导班,甚至辞去工作,牺牲自己,早早的亲自上阵陪读,就为了孩子不被“分流”出去。

然而,每年中考过后,只要你细心观察便会发现,那些能够顺利跨越高中门槛,尤其是中考成绩特别突出的学生,往往并非来自于往返于课外补习班或父母全程陪读的家庭。

那些中考失利的学生,也往往都存在着一些共性特点。

①学习方法不当

“费曼学习法”“艾宾浩斯遗忘曲线”“康奈尔笔记法”“概念地图法”“口诀记忆法”……

上述广受认可的科学的学习方法,不仅有助于提升学习效率,更能培养学生的自主学习能力,使他们更好地掌握知识和技巧。

作为家长,你了解几个?你的孩子又掌握了几个?

孩子偏科、成绩下滑、背课文慢、理解能力差……这些令人头痛不已的学习问题,单靠简单的“刻苦学习”是无法彻底解决的。

我国有句俗语叫“授之以鱼不如授之以渔”,著名的教育家叶圣陶也曾说过“教,是为了不教。”意思是教会孩子科学的学习方法,比单纯地让他们学习知识更为重要。

找到适合自己的科学的学习方法孩子,即使他们花的学习时间相对较少,也能取得较好的学习成绩。

反之,那些没有找到合适学习方法的孩子,即使他们刷题再多,报再多的补习班,也可能只是停留在表面,无法真正掌握知识的精髓。

②缺乏时间管理能力

缺乏时间管理能力的孩子,最大的缺点就是在学习上拖延!

这些孩子放学回到家,对完成作业的时间没有概念,要么先看会电视,再吃会零食,好不容易要写作业了,还分不清轻重缓急。

更糟糕的是,这些孩子还常常以查题为由,抱着手机不放,结果查题10分钟,玩手机一小时!当爸妈催促,他们才意识到为时已晚,所以只能匆忙赶作业,结果往往是质量低劣、敷衍了事。

相反,那些中考成功上岸的孩子,则深知时间是宝贵的,需要被妥善利用。

他们不仅熟练掌握各种科学的时间管理方法,如番茄钟法、时间饼法等,更能在放学后合理规划学习事项。

这样的时间管理方式,不仅可以让他们能够高质量地完成作业,同时还可以有足够的时间参与课外活动、阅读课外书籍或追求自己的兴趣爱好。

这种良性循环使得他们的学习状态越来越好,成绩自然稳步提升。

③学习心态、兴趣不足

初中的孩子,刚进入青春期,逐渐开始建立自我意识和独立性,渴望得到更多的自主权,在这个过程中,他们可能会表现出任性、叛逆的一面

比如,不喜欢或者不适应某科任课老师的讲课风格,就干脆直接不听这位老师讲的课,老师在讲台上讲课,他就在底下做其他事情,甚至睡大觉……

再比如,有的孩子数学不好,就会对学习数学产生恐惧或者抵触心理,认为自己学不好是没有这方面的天赋,这种消极的心态,会导致他失去学习数学的动力,影响数学学习的效果。

心态不佳、兴趣缺乏的孩子,对于学习常持消极态度,在学习中遇到困难时,更容易感到挫败、焦虑,甚至逃避。

这种心态削弱了他们的学习动力,使他们不愿深入钻研,进而可能出现注意力不集中、记忆力减退等问题,自然难以取得好的成绩。

相反,那些对学习充满兴趣,学习心态好的学生,通常相信自己有能力克服学习中的困难,对于学习中遇到的挑战,也能够保持冷静和乐观。

这样的学习态度,使得他们可以更加专注的投入到学习的过程中去,从而更深入地理解和掌握知识。

同时,他们对学习内容充满兴趣,会主动寻找相关的学习资源,拓宽自己的知识视野,成绩自然会步步提升。

④背后站着一双不懂家庭教育的父母

有权威机构,曾对2007年至2016年间的高考状元,进行了深入的调查研究,结果发现:其中35.09%的状元来自教师家庭,18.62%来自公务员家庭。

为什么这两类家庭更容易培养出学霸?

有些家长可能会认为,教师和公务员父母学历高,可以给孩子“开小灶”,成绩自然好。

其实还真不是,该机构发现,这两类家庭的父母在教育孩子的过程中,有3个显著的共性,普通家庭如果能够借鉴并实践这三点,也有可能培养出学霸。

首先就是这些家庭的父母,深知良好的学习态度、习惯和方法,是孩子取得优异成绩的基础,所以日常教育孩子的过程中,更重视孩子的学习态度、学习习惯的培养,同时也传授孩子一些科学的学习方法。

其次,这些家庭的父母非常了解孩子在各个阶段的成长变化。他们不仅看重学业,更关心孩子的内心感受和需求。通过经常和孩子深入聊天,他们知道孩子学得怎么样,并及时给予帮助和指导,这样的亲子关系,让孩子更有自信,学习也更有劲头。

最后,这些家庭的父母通常都有较为稳定的工作和收入,平时喜欢阅读、运动,管理孩子方面也相对有经验,可以为孩子提供良好的学习环境和必要的学习资源。

相较之下,那些学习成绩较差的孩子的父母,虽然大部分可以做到最后一点,但往往难以意识到前两点的重要性。即便有所意识,也因为教育能力的欠缺,不知如何下手。

【最后写给父母的话】

著名教育家陈鹤琴在其著作《家庭教育》中明确指出:父母在家庭教育中的作用至关重要。

他们需要不断学习和提升教育方法与技巧,以深入了解孩子的身心发展特点与需求,并根据每个孩子的个性差异实施相应的教育策略。

一项调查显示:虽然大多数家长,都能认识到家庭教育,对孩子成长和发展的重要性,但真正掌握家庭教育方法与技巧的家长,却寥寥无几。超过半数的家长表示,在教育孩子的过程中感到力不从心,渴望得到更多的指导和帮助。

幸运的是,随着社会经济和信息技术的飞速发展,我们拥有了更多提升自身教育能力的途径。

比如,线上听取教育专家的课程与讲座,与其他优秀家长教师线上线下交流,参加亲子沟通培训课程,阅读优质的家庭教育书籍等,都是十分有效的方法。

希望各位家长,可以利用这些方式,提升自我,为孩子创造一个更好的学习环境,学习资源。

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