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心理学研究发现:小时候越“事儿事儿”的孩子,长大后可能越优秀

发布日期:2024-08-21 03:14:14编辑:网络收集

不知道各位家长有没有遇到过这样一类“怪小孩”?或者自己的孩子就是其中之一?

他们小心谨慎、不愿冒险、喜欢安静、挑剔、忍耐力弱、爱哭、做事拖拉、洁癖、不合群,对新鲜事物又特别好奇。

比如,自己的衣服只要沾了一点水,或者有哪怕脏了一丁点儿,就必须马上脱下来换上新的,而且衣服上的标签也一定要剪掉才能穿……

再比如,他们一般都有一个特别的安抚物,比如一只毛绒小猪,或者从小用到大的小毛毯,睡觉必须有它陪伴。

他们怕黑、怕水、怕孤单,但对蚂蚁、蜗牛、毛毛虫、小鸭子、猫猫狗狗等一切小动物却充满了喜爱……

说实话,我家女儿禾禾就是这么一个“事儿事儿”的孩子。

她的以上种种特质,曾一度让我感到筋疲力尽,有时候她找事厉害的时候,我还一度怀疑她是不是在故意“找我的茬”或者故意“刁难”我,甚至怀疑女儿是不是出现了什么问题。

直到我在一本书上看到了一个词“高敏感小孩”,我才发现,原来女儿的这一切并非故意为难和找茬,也并非心理问题或者疾病,而是她与生俱来的性格特质。

01 什么是“高敏感小孩”?

所谓“高敏感小孩”(HSP,Highly Sensitive Person),简单来说就是那些对周围环境和自身感受特别敏感的孩子。

他们可能更容易被声音、光线、气味等外部刺激所影响,对细微的变化也能迅速察觉。同时,他们也可能对自身的情绪、需求和身体状况有更深的感知

这种敏感性,使得他们在某些情况下,可能表现得更为谨慎、挑剔或情绪化,但他们也往往具有更丰富的内心世界、更强的同情心和创造力

“高敏感小孩”这一概念,是由美国著名心理学家伊莱恩·阿伦(Elaine Aron)博士在1996年提出的。

伊莱恩·阿伦博士认为:高敏感儿童所展现的特质和行为,并不意味着这类孩子存在心理问题或疾病,而是他们与生俱来的一种特质,非常宝贵。

如果父母能够正确理解这种特质,并加以正确引导,那么这类小孩在未来的生活和工作中,可能会展现出较一般孩子更非凡的才能。

02 “高敏感小孩”的优势与挑战

研究发现:与普通孩子相比,“高敏感小孩”的大脑神经元与突触间的连接天生更为敏感或不稳定,这使得他们的神经元更容易被激活,因此他们对各类刺激的反应更为敏感和强烈。

正是因为这种特点,使得高敏感小孩在人际交往、情感体验和创造力等方面相对普通孩子更具优势,但同时也伴随着一些挑战。

→ 优势

高敏感的小孩,观察力强且情感丰富细腻,能够敏锐的察觉到身边人的细微的情绪变化,同时,也富有强大的同理心,可以深刻的理解他人的感受和情绪,这种特质非常有吸引力。

所以,即使他们喜欢安静或者不合群,也能交到真正的朋友。

高敏感的小孩,对细节特别敏感,更容易发现和欣赏生活中别人忽略的小美好,且善于思考,有独特的创意和想法,这使得他们在画画、写作等方面特别有创意。

高敏感的小孩,对自己和他人的事情会更加认真负责,在做选择时相比普通孩子,会考虑的更多,且会照顾到每个人的感受,所以能做出更好的决定。

→ 挑战

高敏感的小孩,往往是最敏锐的观察者,且情感细腻丰富,所以更容易受到刺激,有时候可能会因为一点小事情就感到难过或者生气。

高敏感的小孩,因为过于敏感,所以特别注重细节,有时候可能会在一些小事上纠结很久,从而影响做事的效率。

虽然高敏感的小孩相比普通小孩,更能交到真挚的朋友,但由于他过于在乎别人的感受,担心自己的一举一动对别人的影响。

所以,他们一般都不太喜欢社交,尤其是面对陌生人和新的环境,他们也会表现出异于常人的警惕。

02 越“事儿事儿”的孩子,长大后可能越优秀!

拥有高敏感特质的小孩,在生活中会遭遇许多挑战,然而,正确的引导,可以帮助他们充分发挥自己的优势,进而成为更加出色的人。

作为家长,我们要明白高敏感并非一种疾病或者缺陷,而是孩子与生俱来的优异的特质;

同时,我们还要尊重他们的个性和节奏,且要注意耐心倾听他们的感受和想法,并积极地为他们营造一个稳定、安静、充满爱的环境,减少不必要的外部刺激,帮助他们感到舒适和安全。

高敏感的小孩,虽然擅长观察他人的感受和情绪,但却不擅长于表达自己的感受和需求。

所以,我们应该倾听以及鼓励他们表达自己的感受和需求,并给予积极的反馈。

同时,传授他们一些应对策略,比如通过调整呼吸,转移注意力等方式,帮助他们更好的应对压力与挑战。

高敏感的小孩内心深处往往缺乏安全感,这可能会影响到他们的社交和日常生活。为了帮助他们建立更强大的自信心和社交能力。

我们可以鼓励他们参与自己感兴趣的活动,与他们建立深厚的信任关系,成为他们可以信赖的人,以增强他们的自信心与社交能力,让他们感到安全与被关心。

【最后写给家长的话】

有研究发现:高敏感小孩在儿童中的比例可达15%到20%左右。

这也就意味着,现实生活中,每五个孩子就可能有一个孩子是高敏感小孩。

在传统文化中,敏感时常被当作是一种缺陷,和自信相互对立。但是心理学研究发现,高敏感特质并非一种需要被纠正的“问题”,而是上天给孩子的礼物。

只要我们做家长的,可以给予孩子正确的引导和帮助,就可以帮助高敏感小孩充分发挥他们的优势,成为更优秀的人。

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