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育儿说:3-6岁宝宝行为认识上的焦虑,应由灵魂有温度的妈妈安抚

发布日期:2024-08-01 18:12:12编辑:网络收集

——谨以此文,写在母亲节到来之妈妈系列第8篇。

要不就是跟个小结巴一样,明明什么都知道,就是问啥都说不出个所以然。

还有一种情况就是成天和小朋友比玩具,比零食,比文具,炫耀自己的有多么多么好,被别人比过就情绪低落。

看到这里,你会想到,这不就是孩子的天性么,有什么可说的。

我们来看一下,一般常见型的宝宝焦虑有哪几种:

母亲发现后,就为他买来许许多多的书让他看,这让小比尔盖茨非常开心。但是很快,妈妈就发现了一个问题,他常常闷头看书,却说不出书里讲的是什么。

而且在课堂上老师提问他,他也常常面红耳赤,张口结舌,说不出个所以然。细心的妈妈在了解到这一情况后,仔细观察了小比尔盖茨一段时间,终于发现了原因。

原来,小比尔盖茨通常在思考一件事情的时候,是先从逻辑开始,然后慢慢的整理到思路,步骤,再到词汇的使用。这样一来,他的思维跟不上老师的速度,然后越着急就越着急,更说不上来了。

而是每天他放学和周末的时候,都带他去参加朋友的聚会,聚会上有许多朋友的孩子,妈妈鼓励小比尔盖茨去和小朋友们打交道。

然后每次为他制定一个与这次聚会有关的聊天主题,并让他回答叙述。

久而久之,小比尔盖茨的语言反应渐渐跟上大脑的反应了,也不再拙嘴笨舌地说不上来,茶壶煮饺子了。

小比尔盖茨由于父母工作忙碌,

所以,就造成了这种语言焦虑,幸亏他的妈妈给予了他耐心的陪伴和指导,并在发现这种情况后及时为他开导,才造就了未来的计算机天才,成为世界最瞩目的人之一。

这位银行家的女儿,对待小比尔盖茨用的是

所以,锻炼了他在社交上的勇气,也为他以后对人类非凡的成就奠定了坚实的基础。

我家大宝刚刚出生那几年,我和老公日子过的比较舒适,因为就一个孩子。而且我和老公在当时属于人人羡慕的“三高家庭”,高学历,高收入,高职位。这样家庭的头一个孩子肯定待遇非凡,所有好的都是他的。

后来,我接连因为生了二宝和三宝而辞职,又请了一位阿姨来一起照顾,无形中拉低了生活质量,老公一个人的收入常常刚刚勉强够用。

这种情况下,刚刚上三年级已经懂得家里情况的大宝,有时候就会情绪低落。毕竟,曾经优渥的生活,让他也增长了不少见识。

有一段时间,大宝经常把家里他的玩具偷偷拿到学校去玩,因为我比较尊重孩子,经常会买一些限量版的手办和玩具送他做生日礼物。

开始我不知道,后来有一次老师打电话请我去学校,我才发现,原来一个很昂贵的手办被他带到学校炫耀,让同学给不小心摔坏了。

他和人家不依不饶,闹到老师那里,幸好老师也是个手办爱好者,知道这个手办的价值,于是请了我来。

我先是告诉了大宝家里的事情,请他帮忙分析了一下当前我们所面临的情况。然后又旁敲侧击地问了一下他的学习。

我诚恳的向他请教,我们家现在这种情况应该怎么样来安排生活,能够让每个家庭成员都满意。大宝虽然有点吃惊我对他从未有过的尊重语气,但他还是像个小大人那样同我郑重地聊了起来。

最后我们达成了协议,每个月拔一部分款项,由他来支配。这批款项包含家里的三个孩子的日常开销,并让他记账,尤其一家五口人的生日礼物,也由他来安排。

家里忽然生活质量拉低,对大宝还是有影响的,比如有好吃的好玩的都先给小的,不够了就没有大宝的了,大宝失落的心无处安放,

人都是这样,由简入奢易,由奢入简难。孩子固定了一种生活模式,而且是比较优渥的环境,忽然要把这种待遇一分为三,肯定要不适应的。

所以我用了

久了,我还发现,他的学习成绩竟然也不像以前那样马马虎虎了,竟然也逐渐跟了上来!

罗斯福是美国历史上唯一连任四届的总统。他小时候因为脊髓灰质炎导致腿脚行动不便,牙齿还参差不齐,这让他非常自卑。

虽然他家庭富有,但是父母也并没有因为他的疾病就对他有多么的额外照顾,父母都把他当做正常小孩子一样。

罗斯福小时候由于疾病导致自卑又自负,在和小朋友玩游戏的时候,经常会起争执,因为他不想输。

但是他用尽任何办法的赢,小朋友们并不喜欢,就会拿他的生理缺陷做文章,常常会令他特别恼火。再加上他的母亲对他要求比较严格,给他制定了严格的生活作息,也常常让他喘不过气来。

终于有一天,他爆发了,他和母亲大吼大叫,说要出去玩。他的母亲愣了一下,但是什么也没说,就让他去玩了,结果他一跑出去就在花园里玩了整整一天,回来的时候满身大汗,浑身脏兮兮的。

第二天,妈妈才把他叫到身旁,语重心长地和他交流这件事情,母子二人探讨了好久,才达成共识。以后妈妈不再对他的生活那么苛刻,他也不可以太过争强好胜。

他的妈妈告诉他,

这句话,成为他一生的座右铭,也为他在日后的总统大选上成为至理名言,

他的妈妈对他使用的是尊重的温度。罗斯福能够连任四届美国总统,是美国历史上公任的最成功的总统之一,无论是对待民众还是对待友邦,都对他评价极高。这与他妈妈对他的教养是分不开的。

他的妈妈没有因为他有生理缺陷就对他额外骄纵或者溺爱,而是待他像别的孩子一样一视同仁,而且他妈妈还帮助他分析与小朋友交往中的缺点,尊重他提出的各项意见,这成为日后他体察美国人民疾苦打下了基础。

都说孩子10岁以后应该由父亲管理,而10岁之前,妈妈就是孩子的全部。

妈妈二字,代表的是柔和、美好和幸福。妈妈是孩子成长道路上的灯塔,是孩子人生道路指路的明灯。

在孩子年幼的时候,妈妈与孩子的亲密度要远超过父亲,因为孩子和妈妈共度了十个月的“亲密时期”,真正的“骨血相融”。

所以,妈妈应该做一个灵魂有温度的女子,缓解宝宝成长时期的各种焦虑。

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