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《何以笙箫默》剧版,每个孩子的成长,都留有原生家庭的烙印

发布日期:2024-06-12 11:15:25编辑:小编

对于年轻男女的爱情来讲,《何以笙箫默》的确是部很经典的剧,从文字版到电视剧版,都能够带给我们很多爱情的感动和憧憬,以及为爱坚守,最终守得云开见月明的欣欣然。

那句“我不愿将就”成就了何以琛的坚守,那么一直喜欢碎碎念的赵默笙,则把欢喜和喜欢变成潺潺流水,成为环绕何以琛的柔情。

爱情太美好,爱情也太容易幻灭,所以,成就了7年等待,在等待中彼此煎熬和熬煎的两个爱人,才如此让我们挠心挠肺的与之共情。

这次我却更想在赵默笙和何以琛的爱情边缘,从原生家庭的角度,根据剧中的几个人物,来聊一聊自己养儿育女的一些小感悟。

1、赵默笙

常常有人说赵默笙爱得太卑微。

从最初对何以琛的一见钟情,到死缠烂打、步步紧跟,把年轻人的朝气、活力,不怕困难的一面展现得淋漓尽致;倒是在成为男女朋友之后,开启了处处以何以琛为核心,用“我会怪你的”来表达决心,最终因为“我宁愿从来没有认识过你”而伤透了心却没有质问的勇气,再加上阴差阳错的各种原因不得不远走他乡,7年之后重新回国,更是增加了物是人非的凄凉……

其实,赵默笙是有心魔的。她的心魔源自于她的母亲。若说她的父亲是她人生中勇气和底气的来源,那么她的母亲则是她内心深处自卑和无助的根源。

她一直都生活在“冰与火”的交融中,父爱给予她幸福与快乐,然而,母亲却在不断地增加她的清醒与彷徨。几乎没有得到母爱的孩子,的确会有太多内心深处的脆弱以及对幸福追求的不坚定。

所以,在被父亲急匆匆送去美国的前一个晚上,不是赵默笙没有勇气去追问何以琛的原因,而是在那一刻,她本已被何以玫所带来的信息所冲击,忐忑不安的认为何以琛并没有完全信任她,所以内心被缺乏母爱而带来的自卑感所覆盖,完全遮挡了父亲曾经给与她的底气。

因此对于女孩子的成长来讲,一个幸福的家庭,一个温婉的母亲,一个疼宠的父亲,才是女生最大的底气和勇气,任缺其一都需要用格外多的力气去修补。

2、何以琛

何以琛是个非常优秀的男孩子,在家庭遭到如此惨烈的打击后,他依旧坚挺地向阳而生,成绩优异、性格坚毅、少年老成。

他是理智的,理智到用“我考虑过了,如果三年后你注定是我的女朋友,我何不提早行使我的权力”来认可赵默笙和他的爱情,他虽然曾经笃定的对何以玫说自己不会在大学谈恋爱,但是最终还是败在了小太阳一样的赵默笙的热情中。

这是因为在内心深处,年少的何以琛又何尝没有自卑的心理?父母双亡,寄居他人家里,所以他的冷静与理智是被生活打磨所成,少年本有的朝气也被生活压抑的支离破碎。

这样的人,遇到生命中的那抹阳光,怎会不心动、不留恋、不为之盛开?

只是在大学时候的他,还没有太强的能力与定力,面对恋人忽然突如其来变成“仇人的女儿”,再加上赵默笙的父亲又急于将女儿送出国外,难免也会急功近利一些,所有的一切问题同时爆发的时候,年轻的何以琛无从面对,只有对赵默笙爆发。

也只有成年后的何以琛,才能在面对赵默笙妈妈的质问时,理智地回答一句:“他们给我十年,我要默笙一辈子,我屈从于现实的温暖。”这是他对于过去的释怀,也是一个人真正强大的表现。

所以,何以琛对赵默笙的爱,是走心的。他从一开始认可了赵默笙作为自己的女朋友,就没有再想过分开,此后余生点点滴滴,他的未来设计与规划,都有了赵默笙的痕迹。

原生家庭对何以琛所造成的伤痛,让他更加坚强,勇敢面对,这是他未来必定成功的基础;父爱母爱的缺失,让他对爱对家庭更加向往,也更加敏感,这是他迟迟不接受赵默笙,一旦接纳就立即划到自己所有的范围的前提。

这里说一句,不是何以玫父母对他不好,事实上,何以玫父母对他很好,造就他困惑的,是何以玫而已。

3、何以玫

何以玫同样是一个优秀的女孩子,虽然爱情曾经让她嫉妒的迷失了心神,但是她同样也对自己的爱情坚持了太久。就像她对赵默笙说的:“我不是败给了你,而是败给了他。”遇到比她更能坚持、用情更深的何以琛,她只能无奈地接受现实的惨败。

何以玫对何以琛的坚持,不得不说到原生家庭的影响。

她与何以琛可以说是青梅竹马、从小一起长大的。如果没有赵默笙的出现,那么她也的确有可能会成为何以琛的“将就”,可惜,这个世界从来没有“如果”,赵默笙出现了。

何以玫对何以琛的感情,她的爸爸妈妈不能说自己是不知道的,甚至老两口一直是乐观其成的态度,毕竟在整个剧情中,何以玫的家庭和路远风的家庭是最为正常的,而对比之下,何以玫的家庭最能代表普通大众。

普普通通的家庭,平平凡凡的父母,辛辛苦苦的养育掌上明珠,唯一的变数就是中途领养了何以琛。那么希望自己的掌上明珠得到幸福应该是老两口最大的心愿了,那么还有谁能够比得上一直生活在身边的何以琛作为自己的乘龙快婿更好的人选呢?

也正是因为父母的默许和认可,更加坚定了何以玫的执念,可以无视何以琛的委婉拒绝而一直苦苦坚持。其实,父母早些认清楚现实,并适当给孩子一定的提醒,也许孩子并不走心,也许孩子并不领情,但是也未必完全无效,因为父母的态度是会或多或少影响到孩子的心理。就怕父母默默的认可,是能够带给孩子扩大若干倍的效果和勇气。

有些人的伤口在时间中默默痊愈,有些人的伤口在时间中默默溃烂,这就是何以玫和何以琛的最佳体现。好在,何以玫是那个被痊愈的人;好在,赵默笙也带来了治疗何以琛的灵丹妙药。

《何以笙箫默》里,还有很多有特色的配角:

比如路远风,一个出生在幸福家庭的孩子,有自己的个性,也有自己的追求,洁身自好,面对自己的“错误”(和萧筱的一夜情)勇敢承担等等,离不开原生家庭中父母恩爱对他的影响和栽培;

比如萧筱,看似大大咧咧、风情万种、光芒四射的大明星,却依旧逃不开原生家庭对她的影响,用自己的力量不断往上爬的信念,当然也离不开一直抚养她的奶奶带给她内心深处的善良……

不过说到底,原生家庭会带给孩子一生的烙印和关键时刻的影响,但并非孩子成长后所有的不如意或不堪,都冠以“原生家庭”的帽子而逃避自己应该承担的责任。

事实上,你在或不在,只要存在,原生家庭就会一直陪伴着你,如影随形;

但是你的成败,更多的过程在于你是否能够认识到原生家庭所带给你的真正影响,并且逐渐让自己有能力改变原生家庭带来的不良影响,而把原生家庭所带来的良好家风、家训发扬下去,让自己逐渐强大才应该是自己的人生目标啊!

所以,原生家庭仅仅是一个人的来源,而不是结局。

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